Restore Workshop – Healing After Sexual BetrayalHas the pain of someone’s sexual betrayal devastated your life? Whether it’s betrayal due to pornography, affairs, adultery, voyeurism, lusting, prostitutes, sexting, sexual fetishes or same sex attraction — sexual betrayal is traumatizing.

The Restore Workshop helps women whose hearts have been shattered by sexual betrayal trauma find hope. Many women who come to the workshop feel very alone and are filled with shame, anger and worthlessness. Some have never even shared their story. But once they arrive, they discover women of all kinds and ages are struggling as well, and they begin to feel safe to open up and share.

Restore is the place to realize you are not alone. Restoration is possible – if not for your marriage, for you!

About the Workshop

You’ll Learn About:

  • The sexual addiction cycle and why he does what he does
  • Negative self-beliefs & the vows you’ve made
  • Trauma, anger, bitterness and guilt
  • Tools for the early stages of recovery
  • Triggers & boundaries
  • Forgiveness
  • Rebuilding trust
  • Living a restored & redeemed life
  • Self-care
  • Marriage after betrayal
  • Unhealthy & healthy coping skills
  • Disclosure
  • A plan for recovery
Watch this short video invitation from Shelley Martinkus, the presenter at the Restore workshop, who gives reasons why you should attend and what to expect.


Women dealing with the pain and trauma of an affair and are looking for healing after sexual betrayal. Women whose husband, boyfriend or father is in to porn, strip clubs, prostitutes, sexting, voyeurism, cross dressing, or same sex attraction.

Attendees must be 18 years of age or older.

Friday 3:00 – 9:15pm
Saturday 9:00am – 9:00pm
Sunday 9:00am – noon

Attendance for all sessions is required

  • 3 meals: Friday – dinner; Saturday – lunch & dinner (breakfasts are on your own)
  • 8 teaching sessions
  • 6 small process group sessions facilitated by a credentialed New Life Network Counselor
  • All program materials

Hotel accommodations are not included, but a group rate has been negotiated with the host hotel. While you are not required to stay at the host hotel, to enhance the workshop experience and ensure all distractions are left behind, we highly encourage staying at the hotel.

Special discounts are available for Club New Life members as well as those who have attended other New Life workshops. You must call New Life to receive these special discounts. These rates are not available online. Scholarships based on financial need are also available. To apply please call (800) NEW-LIFE.

If you cancel 14 days or more prior to the workshop, you will receive a refund of the amount you’ve paid minus a cancellation fee of $200 per person.

If you cancel less than 14 days before the start of the workshop or no show to the workshop, no refund shall be given.

SHELLEY MARTINKUS: Shelley is a wife to Jason and mom to three young boys. Her world changed forever when she found out about her husband’s sexual addiction. God used Jason’s betrayal as a catalyst for Shelley to look at her own life and start to heal all the broken pieces she saw staring back at her. Shelley and Jason are now years into their journey. She likes to say that her relationship with God, with Jason, and with others is better because of what she has been through.

She has written one book, Rescued, and co-authored two others, Worthy of Her Trust and Understanding and Loving a Person with Sexual Addiction.

Shelley calls Colorado home although a part of her heart will always reside in Texas, her native homeland.

Listen to this interview Steve had with Shelley about why you should attend the workshop and the betrayal trauma effects porn has on women.

Throughout the weekend you will breakout in to a small process group facilitated by a credentialed New Life Network Counselor. All facilitators hold at least a master’s degree and are committed Christians with specific clinical training in treating sexual addiction and related issues. The majority of the facilitators are in some form of personal recovery as a partner.

It is common for some who are not familiar with the group process to feel anxious and uncertain about this part of the workshop. Be assured your facilitator will create a safe space to process what you are learning in the main sessions. You will experience support and connection with others in your group and create a plan for when you go back into your daily life. Many alum say the process groups the best part of the weekend!

There is a ratio of one counselor to every seven to nine attendees.

New Life offers ongoing weekly coaching groups to help you continue your journey of restoration from betrayal. These groups meet via telephone/video call.


Listen to this interview with Diane who attended the Restore – Healing after Betrayal workshop.

Listen to this interview with Donna who attended the Restore – Healing after Betrayal workshop.

Listen to this interview with Jean who attended the Restore – Healing after Betrayal workshop.

I am grateful that the focus was truly upon my heart’s condition. I have tried a variety of strategies in the past and failed. I have recently come to understand that I cannot “white knuckle” this and beat it in my own strength. I am walking away hopeful for true renewal and restoration.”


The degree of acceptance and non-judgmental love that I received from the staff as I arrived for this weekend opened the door of receptivity in my soul.”


I was surprised at the power of relationship. How strange is it that you put a bunch of strangers together and eventually they share more than if they were brothers. Obviously you guys know what you are doing. God bless you all!


Upcoming Workshop:

February 25 - 27, Orange Co., CA

$800until 2/11

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